The Bully In Your Cubicle

Has a workplace bully invaded your personal space? Imagine a bully entering your cubicle and threatening to gouge out your eyes and skull fuck you. More than bullying, this threat screams of sexual harassment with undertones of criminality. At least, that’s my opinion.

Notifying a supervisor and upper level management prompted scorn and ridicule of me. After all, this was the same guy who chimed in with other coworkers to call me a prostitute. Horrified, I contacted human resources. They conducted one of many “all hands” meetings. In these meetings, EEO officers cautioned the entire office about sexual harassment instead of punishing the offender.

I felt such shame and embarrassment. Most importantly, I felt helpless because I was not yet schooled on the issues of hostile work environment and sexual harassment. Looking back on that terribly upsetting day, I realize what I should have done.

I should have named it sexual harassment and bullying by calling out the man I refused to sleep with. But I was paralyzed by the thought of the coworker actually harming me. And I was dumbfounded by management’s inaction on the matter. Sure, EEO officers traveled from Columbus, Ohio to Mason, Ohio in order to make a speech. But that speech only turned more coworkers against me.

Right then, I should have taken off work. But I needed all of my vacation and sick days for emergencies. The problem was: I failed to recognize sexual harassment as an emergency. So I remained at the office even though I hated being there.

Looking back, I should have taken my psychologist’s advice: take care of your health by removing yourself from the entire situation. You can always get another job. But you can’t get another you. For years I mourned my life. Eventually I snapped out of it to fight for myself, to stand up for myself.

It took me nearly two decades to learn I’m in the fight of my life. My opponent? Ohio Bureau of Workers’ Compensation–in other words–the state of Ohio, my former employer. 

People wondered why I stayed in such a hostile environment. It’s simple: I knew no better. From the moment I turned down the agency director, BWC targeted me. I complained of sexual harassment. The complaint forced BWC to defend itself by labeling me as a prostitute.

BWC harassed me inside and outside the office. The agency harassed me on my subsequent part-time job at Mercy HealthPlex. When BWC couldn’t brand me as a prostitute because they couldn’t find one person I’d taken money from, BWC labeled me as just crazy.

And they spent years driving me crazy. To this day, I await the termination of the fact-finding investigation at the Ohio Civil Rights Commission and the EEOC. I’m told that the investigation continues until one of us—I or the state of Ohio—wins.

 

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A Letter To My Senator

This complaint involves two different charges that were processed. In the first charge filed against my former employer, Ohio Bureau of Workers’ Compensation (BWC), the charge was never closed even though I was sent a right-to-sue letter because I had hired an attorney after the bureau wrongfully terminated me. It did not take my attorney two years to file suit. It only took Jeffrie Lurie less than two months, but the magistrate dismissed the suit allegedly for expiration of the statute of limitations even though witnesses and one of my offenders admitted to sexually harassing me and making my workplace hostile. I dispute this because the last incident of continuous retaliation was the date of my termination.

Also, the EEOC ignored evidence that my former employer, BWC, in collusion with the state of Ohio conspired to interfere with and interrupt my child support checks as continuous retaliation. As a matter of fact, the Ohio Child Support Enforcement Agency withheld support for six months until I filed a complaint against the agency. The EEOC ignored the fact that the state of Ohio was continuously retaliating against me for more than a decade.

In 2006 I worked for Mercy HealthPlex and started experiencing a hostile work environment as well as sexual harassment. I learned later that the state of Ohio and Mercy HealthPlex colluded to undermine my credibility by working together and sending some of my former coworkers at BWC to harass me on my new job. I dual-filed a charge with the Ohio Civil Rights Commission and the EEOC in August 2009.

By September 2012, I started contacting Ohio Representative Margaret Conditt as well as the Colerain Police Department to cease the fact-finding investigation as I was not only being intimidated, but the process became a financial hardship for me. Conditt’s office made inquiries and told me the OCRC and EEOC was not trying to harass me, but they required additional medical information.

In retaliation for me contacting Conditt and Senator Sherrod Brown, an investigator for the Ohio Highway Patrol illegally detained me and had me committed to UC’s psychiatric facility for 8 days. My insurance company refused to pay for more than a 72 hour hold because I was no danger to myself or anyone else.

In mid January 2013, I went to the Dayton field office of the OCRC and tried withdrawing my charge. There was no incident, yet when the agencies learned I was leaving Ohio, an Ohio Highway Patrol investigator contacted me and stated if I failed to seek psychiatric help and take medicine, they will arrest me. Then they placed a summons in my mailbox. During a dangerous ice storm, I appeared in court in February 2012, and no one from the OCRC or EEOC appeared. The case was set for another court date for April 2012. Neither I nor the OCRC showed up for court, yet the case has haunted me.

In the fall of 2015, I was denied a substitute teaching position because the charge of aggravated menacing was still open. In the spring of 2016, an apartment community in Tucker, GA turned me down for an apartment because of the aggravated menacing charge. In April 2016 I returned to Ohio to defend myself. The case was continued until the beginning of May 2016. I appeared again, but no one from the OCRC or EEOC appeared. I hired a public defender who was surprised the case was not dismissed as no one from the other side appeared 3 years ago nor this year.

The EEOC has continuously denied that any charge I filed was open. I have the right to learn the status of my cases, and I have the right not to be retaliated against by employees at the EEOC and OCRC because I told other politicians and agencies they were not doing their job. Please help me. These agencies have interfered with my life enough!

Why Would ‘He’ Want To Set Fire To My Tampon?

5/13/2016

I’m Tracey Lampley. Many apologies for not posting sooner, but I’m back now. Are you wondering about the title of this post? You should because a coworker stated he would set fire to my tampon if I continue being mean to him (by resisting his advances).

I must admit this personal trainer, who dabbled in karate, scared the crap out of me every time he undressed me with his eyes. He even ‘playfully’ punched me in my arm. Back in the day, it was called ‘frogging.’ Frogging me left me bewildered and in pain. Want to know the worst part about this? The assault was captured on camera.

In my days working the front desk at Mercy HealthPlex , I experienced many physical and verbal assaults. Sprinkle in a some psychological assaults, and you have yourself a hostile work environment stew!

But please do not think that you should go to fair employment practices agencies like the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) and/or the OCRC (Ohio Civil Rights Commission) because they will drop you in hell first then supply the ladder–not the water–to bring you back up.

Speaking of ladders, at my gig with the Ohio Bureau of Workers’ Compensation, the former director stared at my breasts and told me he could school me in being promoted. He said this after I was turned down for promotion.

The entire time I thought I was passed over for promotion in favor of a white male when in fact sleeping with the agency director would have sealed the deal. No, I never slept with him nor did I realize he was violating a workplace rules and regulations. I blame myself for being ignorant of Title VII laws of the 1964 Civil Rights Act.

As you know, I am blogging a book to inform and help victims of Title VII laws. Until the next time . . .

 

5 Books on Hostile Work Environments

April 16, 2016

As you already know, I endured a hostile work environment. Now I’m writing about it. But the following books may give you insight into what you are enduring. Here are the following:

  1. Ten Commandments of Working in a Hostile Environment by T.D. Jakes
  2. What Your Boss Really Wants From You: 15 Insights To Improve Your Relationship by Steve Arneson.
  3. Women And Sexual Harassment: A Practical Guide to the Legal Protections of Title VII and the Hostile Environment Claim by Robert C. Berring and Anja A. Chan
  4. Sexual Harassment Kit by Bikash Kalita
  5. The Manager’s Guide to Preventing a Hostile Work Environment: How to Avoid Legal Threats by Protecting Your Workplace from Harassment Based on Sex, Race Age by Wanda Dobrich, PhD., Steven Dranoff, PhD., Gerald L. Maatman Jr., Esq. (I mention this book because you will notice immediately what your boss is not doing)

Wipe your tears. Diffuse your anger, and get informed! Always leave a paper trail. In my case, I left a trail of emails. Now, the employer may claim that you are harassing them with emails if you consistently report harassment that way. Tough! It may be the only way to prove you’ve notified the company, the chain of command.

Because you have complained in person–or even given your supervisor a heads up, you’ve planted a target on your back because now the company must cover its ass. The company will look for any reason to discipline you. This is called retaliation. Firing you is not only wrongful termination but continuous retaliation.

In my case, BWC secretly interviewed my neighbors about me. Two of them told me! Ignorant of what to do, I did nothing about it. When I saw someone stealing my trash out of my trashcan, I reported it to police. But nothing materialized from the incident. Watch your trash! Companies hire private investigators to go through it. Even if you use a shredder, private investigators will still fish for information.

For all of this, the EEOC  nor the OCRC never helped me. The agency’s investigators were too busy trying to drive me crazy, and they missed out on obvious opportunities to close this case in my favor. Know this: After filing a workplace violation charge, you can’t trust anyone but yourself. The investigation lingers for as long as your family, friends and neighbors cooperate. You must stop the investigation by blasting what happened while appearing calm, cool, and collected. I know. I’m a survivor.

Follow me. Stick with me. Share my blog posts. Tell people about it. And if you have a similar story, I may let you guest blog. Contact me at: tracey.lampley@gmail.com. Until the next time . . .

Tracey Lampley is the author of Kept and Kept Book Two
Follow me on twitter @BookMistress1

 

 

Do You Work for a Horrible Boss or a Horrible Company?

April 15, 2016

As I stated in previous posts, one supervisor once announced, “Here comes Tracey Lampley in her come-fuck-me-shoes.” Would you call that sexual harassment? I call it a hostile work environment as well as sexual harassment. Worse, that incendiary sentence followed me to my other job at Mercy HealthPlex, a subsidiary doing business as Catholic Health Partners. I mean, could I have worked in worst places who have shown such a hostility?

Shouldn’t a government agency like the Ohio Bureau of Workers’ Compensation (BWC) and a major employer like Catholic Health Partners be safe and professional places to work? In both cases I believed so. However, I ended up in zoo-like atmospheres. In the case at BWC, the agency suspended my supervisor then transferred me to a different supervisor who proceeded to ignore sexual and/or hostile comments toward me, or he made excuses about a coworker by saying, “she’s a saucy red head trying to get a rise out of you.” For instance, this saucy redhead asked me if the reason I took a whole day for a doctor’s appointment was because I’d had a D & C.

WTF?

Reporting that incident to the EEO department at BWC garnered another all-hands meeting where EEO officer explained the meanings of sexual harassment and hostile work environment. And  at one point, all eyes zeroed in on me. Not only did I feel violated, but I wondered if I’d done anything to this employee to make her come after me that way. No, I’d just been transferred to that team and had just met her after my transfer. My point is: Once you complain or file an EEO complaint with your employer, watch out. All hostile guns turn on you. Everybody guns for you. Can you complain about everyone of them? Hell yeah! I did. Remember: Before you file an EEOC or OCRC workplace violation complaint, consult a lawyer, or you’ll be told it’s over but end up in an indefinite fact-finding investigation.

Of course I tried withdrawing my workplace violation complaint from both the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) and the Ohio Civil Rights Commission (OCRC). So far? I’ve had no luck. Working for horrible bosses and working for bad employers suck! Going to Fair Employment Practices Agencies like EEOC and OCRC for help will change your life–for the worst! I’ll speak more on that later.

Follow me. Stick with me. Share my blog posts. Tell people about it. And if you have a similar story, I may let you guest blog. Contact me at: tracey.lampley@gmail.com. Until the next time . . .
Tracey Lampley is the author of Kept and Kept Book Two
Follow me on twitter @BookMistress1