Why Would ‘He’ Want To Set Fire To My Tampon?

5/13/2016

I’m Tracey Lampley. Many apologies for not posting sooner, but I’m back now. Are you wondering about the title of this post? You should because a coworker stated he would set fire to my tampon if I continue being mean to him (by resisting his advances).

I must admit this personal trainer, who dabbled in karate, scared the crap out of me every time he undressed me with his eyes. He even ‘playfully’ punched me in my arm. Back in the day, it was called ‘frogging.’ Frogging me left me bewildered and in pain. Want to know the worst part about this? The assault was captured on camera.

In my days working the front desk at Mercy HealthPlex , I experienced many physical and verbal assaults. Sprinkle in a some psychological assaults, and you have yourself a hostile work environment stew!

But please do not think that you should go to fair employment practices agencies like the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) and/or the OCRC (Ohio Civil Rights Commission) because they will drop you in hell first then supply the ladder–not the water–to bring you back up.

Speaking of ladders, at my gig with the Ohio Bureau of Workers’ Compensation, the former director stared at my breasts and told me he could school me in being promoted. He said this after I was turned down for promotion.

The entire time I thought I was passed over for promotion in favor of a white male when in fact sleeping with the agency director would have sealed the deal. No, I never slept with him nor did I realize he was violating a workplace rules and regulations. I blame myself for being ignorant of Title VII laws of the 1964 Civil Rights Act.

As you know, I am blogging a book to inform and help victims of Title VII laws. Until the next time . . .

 

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Did You Know That Retaliation Accounts For More Than One Third Of Workplace Violation Charges?

4/27/2016

According to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), in 2015 individuals filed 39, 757 charges related to all statutes of retaliation. This number represents 44.5% of all charges filed. For instance, if an individual files a race, sex or sexual harassment discrimination, that individual should immediately check for employer-related retaliation even in the most petty instance because petty retaliation represents the beginning of either a long battle to come or petty retaliation represents the beginning of the end. All of this is rooted in discrimination.

Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 prohibits discrimination based on race, creed, sex, national origin, color and religion. 31,893 individuals filed retaliation charges for Title VII only in the year 2015. The number of filings represents 35.7% of all charges filed. These numbers warn employees to beware of retaliation because employers exercise retaliation in mysterious ways. For instance, suddenly your employer changes your work hours or drops you down from 20 hours per week to 16.

Retaliation comes in all shapes and sizes. If you are responsible for the opening of a gym, and someone hides the keys to the business office so that you cannot transfer the required $200 from the safe to the cash register, that is retaliation–even if your employer uses different people to do such a thing. If you complain about running a cash register, and multiple employees violate or saunter behind the cashier’s desk, and you complain, be prepared for many different people from different departments showing up in your area doing the same thing.

Although this sounds petty; but it isn’t. If you tell your supervisor that you are uncomfortable with multiple people having access to the cash register and the petty cash because you are responsible, you may feel silly, but expressing your thoughts on this will save you from a potential theft charge. NOTE: Proof or allegations of theft nullifies and ends any EEOC or Fair Employment Practices Agencies’ investigation. And even though you wish to keep the peace, your peace was shattered the moment you filed or complained about workplace violations. The company or organization has placed you in the untenable position of fighting for your own reputation because you’ve just been dubbed a troublemaker. Until the next time. . .

Back Home In Georgia

Guess what! The cops did not arrest me nor did they detain me or place me in handcuffs which may have evoked a panic attack. They reissued the citation for aggravated menacing and told me to show up in court in two weeks! I expected to go to jail for at least an hour. Not really. As I stated previously, while I endure this fact-finding process conducted by both the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) and the Ohio Civil Rights Commission (OCRC), the agencies cannot have me jailed for anything. And if either agency becomes aware that I might commit a crime, the agency must terminate the fact-finding process. With that being said, I will not knowingly commit a crime. However, I intend to file an injunction to terminate this process.

As I drove seven hours back home, I stewed on this whole process. Imagine the agencies soliciting and compelling your friends, loved-ones and neighbors to torment you. At times I don’t believe my family knew what was all involved. Perhaps they were told that if they did not cooperate, I would lose my case. I’m here to tell you I’m a winner! I’m claiming it.

After enduring the unreasonable and retaliatory withholding of my child support for six months more than a decade ago, I ended up losing my home. The state of Ohio–my former employer–caused real harm. And they used my ex to do it. You see: while he worked for the city of Newburgh, the New York Child Support Enforcement Agency deducted his obligation from his check. However, the state of Ohio just withheld it for more than six months until I wrote and called everyone screaming bloody murder. To top it off, my ex was not the least bit disturbed that I wasn’t receiving my checks in order to assist in taking care of his daughter. He was in on the whole thing. I suppose he and the state of Ohio were hoping to paint me as an unfit parent. Every month he’d say they were taking it out of his check, and he’d actually chuckle about it. That’s what the process does: laughs at you in the hopes of provoking you. Just another way of continuously retaliating against me.

If you’re missing child support, and you know you’ve filed a workplace violation charge with the EEOC, OCRC and/or other Fair Employment Practices Agencies (FEPAs), beware of these guys. They will try driving you crazy. You’ll feel the torment in the pit of your stomach. It will manifest into major depression, anxiety and acute stress. I’m surprised I’m still living and that I hadn’t had a heart-attack by now. But I’m a survivor. You must reinforce that fact within yourself and beat the FEPAs at all costs. They don’t want you to share your stories, your experiences. But I’m telling la dee da dee every fucking body! I’m sounding the alarm on retaliation, continuous retaliation, hostile work environments and intimidation and sexual harassment.

 

Back In Ohio . . .

I don’t know how I feel about returning to Cincinnati. In no way am I afraid to face this bogus charge that the Ohio Civil Rights Commission (OCRC) hung around my neck like an albatross. I’m ready to do battle. Someone on this blog suggested that I file an injunction against the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) as well as file one against the Ohio Civil Rights Commission. Looking back, I wish I would have blogged this information years ago. It’s funny how much you could learn from total strangers.

Speaking of strangers, even some of my childhood friends feel like strangers to me. This is as a result of my self-isolation. I was so ashamed of losing what I thought was a legitimate lawsuit against my former employer, the Ohio BWC that I couldn’t see straight. Enduring the same workplace violations at my supplemental job humiliated me more. But in between all of this, I endured sabotage of all of my potential and actual romantic relationships.

Imagine your employer setting you up with romantic encounters and/or romantic prospects then telling those same prospects to treat you badly. That’s called interfering with your life. Imagine you already have a boyfriend, and your employer pays him to propose to you just so you might quit your job and move out of state. Welcome to my hell.

If you’ve filed sexual harassment and hostile work environment charges, and your romantic relationships sink to the floor, beware of your employer. It is much easier for your employer to pay off romantic interests to make you look bad than to pay you millions for creating a hostile work environment. True story. But I’ll tell you more in my book Tracey Lampley Surviving the EEOC.

By the way, I’m in town to turn myself in. Tomorrow I’ll show up at the justice center , turn myself in to the police for that bogus aggravated menacing charge and see what happens. Until tomorrow . . .

5 Books on Hostile Work Environments

April 16, 2016

As you already know, I endured a hostile work environment. Now I’m writing about it. But the following books may give you insight into what you are enduring. Here are the following:

  1. Ten Commandments of Working in a Hostile Environment by T.D. Jakes
  2. What Your Boss Really Wants From You: 15 Insights To Improve Your Relationship by Steve Arneson.
  3. Women And Sexual Harassment: A Practical Guide to the Legal Protections of Title VII and the Hostile Environment Claim by Robert C. Berring and Anja A. Chan
  4. Sexual Harassment Kit by Bikash Kalita
  5. The Manager’s Guide to Preventing a Hostile Work Environment: How to Avoid Legal Threats by Protecting Your Workplace from Harassment Based on Sex, Race Age by Wanda Dobrich, PhD., Steven Dranoff, PhD., Gerald L. Maatman Jr., Esq. (I mention this book because you will notice immediately what your boss is not doing)

Wipe your tears. Diffuse your anger, and get informed! Always leave a paper trail. In my case, I left a trail of emails. Now, the employer may claim that you are harassing them with emails if you consistently report harassment that way. Tough! It may be the only way to prove you’ve notified the company, the chain of command.

Because you have complained in person–or even given your supervisor a heads up, you’ve planted a target on your back because now the company must cover its ass. The company will look for any reason to discipline you. This is called retaliation. Firing you is not only wrongful termination but continuous retaliation.

In my case, BWC secretly interviewed my neighbors about me. Two of them told me! Ignorant of what to do, I did nothing about it. When I saw someone stealing my trash out of my trashcan, I reported it to police. But nothing materialized from the incident. Watch your trash! Companies hire private investigators to go through it. Even if you use a shredder, private investigators will still fish for information.

For all of this, the EEOC  nor the OCRC never helped me. The agency’s investigators were too busy trying to drive me crazy, and they missed out on obvious opportunities to close this case in my favor. Know this: After filing a workplace violation charge, you can’t trust anyone but yourself. The investigation lingers for as long as your family, friends and neighbors cooperate. You must stop the investigation by blasting what happened while appearing calm, cool, and collected. I know. I’m a survivor.

Follow me. Stick with me. Share my blog posts. Tell people about it. And if you have a similar story, I may let you guest blog. Contact me at: tracey.lampley@gmail.com. Until the next time . . .

Tracey Lampley is the author of Kept and Kept Book Two
Follow me on twitter @BookMistress1

 

 

Do You Work for a Horrible Boss or a Horrible Company?

April 15, 2016

As I stated in previous posts, one supervisor once announced, “Here comes Tracey Lampley in her come-fuck-me-shoes.” Would you call that sexual harassment? I call it a hostile work environment as well as sexual harassment. Worse, that incendiary sentence followed me to my other job at Mercy HealthPlex, a subsidiary doing business as Catholic Health Partners. I mean, could I have worked in worst places who have shown such a hostility?

Shouldn’t a government agency like the Ohio Bureau of Workers’ Compensation (BWC) and a major employer like Catholic Health Partners be safe and professional places to work? In both cases I believed so. However, I ended up in zoo-like atmospheres. In the case at BWC, the agency suspended my supervisor then transferred me to a different supervisor who proceeded to ignore sexual and/or hostile comments toward me, or he made excuses about a coworker by saying, “she’s a saucy red head trying to get a rise out of you.” For instance, this saucy redhead asked me if the reason I took a whole day for a doctor’s appointment was because I’d had a D & C.

WTF?

Reporting that incident to the EEO department at BWC garnered another all-hands meeting where EEO officer explained the meanings of sexual harassment and hostile work environment. And  at one point, all eyes zeroed in on me. Not only did I feel violated, but I wondered if I’d done anything to this employee to make her come after me that way. No, I’d just been transferred to that team and had just met her after my transfer. My point is: Once you complain or file an EEO complaint with your employer, watch out. All hostile guns turn on you. Everybody guns for you. Can you complain about everyone of them? Hell yeah! I did. Remember: Before you file an EEOC or OCRC workplace violation complaint, consult a lawyer, or you’ll be told it’s over but end up in an indefinite fact-finding investigation.

Of course I tried withdrawing my workplace violation complaint from both the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) and the Ohio Civil Rights Commission (OCRC). So far? I’ve had no luck. Working for horrible bosses and working for bad employers suck! Going to Fair Employment Practices Agencies like EEOC and OCRC for help will change your life–for the worst! I’ll speak more on that later.

Follow me. Stick with me. Share my blog posts. Tell people about it. And if you have a similar story, I may let you guest blog. Contact me at: tracey.lampley@gmail.com. Until the next time . . .
Tracey Lampley is the author of Kept and Kept Book Two
Follow me on twitter @BookMistress1